3 Stages to Give Yourself a Chance for Love

Being jointly mindful about how relationships develop gives you a chance at committed love, and you can both relax and explore along the way.

It takes time to get to the point of commitment. Too many leap into commitment too early. It causes heartbreak and disappointment.

Have you done that? Like a fairy tale with a first date and then living happily every after? It’s a fairy tale! The real world is that love takes time. Take each of the three stages to get there.

Stage One – First Dates

This is the exploratory stage. Is there any chemistry? Everything’s very preliminary.

It’s not time yet to be thinking about a possible future together, just checking the other out, and seeing if you’re interested enough for future dates.

Relationship chemistry’s physical, emotional, and spiritual. The physical is often obvious… do you find the person physically attractive? Do you like the eyes, mouth, body type? What about the voice and laugh, even the accent?

How does the person smell to you? What about the sense of touch when you shake hands or even kiss? What about taste?

If a person tastes or smells of smoke, is that a game-changer for you? Some things will never change. Some things will or can change over time, but right now you’re at the stage of first impressions through the five senses.

There is also the emotional and spiritual connection that’s part of early chemistry discovery. How’s the conversation? What do you care about? Do you share similar interests and life views?

Stage Two is the Honeymoon

The Honeymoon’s special. It’s something many couples work to keep aspects of later in their relationships.

You see one another frequently. You have a lot of fun and excitement together as you get to really know one another.

The honeymoon can last for a few months, or up to a year. It ends as you get to recognize the humanity of your partner. Your partner has flaws, and you start to see them. And they yours.

For some, the honeymoon is all they want. They have a kind of addiction to the thrill of the honeymoon.

They break up and move on as the honeymoon phase matures to its close. I call these people 90-Day Wonders.

They’re great for a honeymoon, but lack the emotional stability and maturity to pursue a long-term relationship.

Relationship Commitment is Stage Three

Once the honeymoon with the rose-colored glasses is ending, and you see one another’s lack of perfection, you may try to change one another.

You may struggle over who’s and who’s wrong in situations, beliefs, and attitudes. This can become a power struggle.

If you can get to the point where you accept one another as you are, rather than try to change perceived imperfections, many relationships become stronger and endure.

If not, breakup can happen, or, often worse, staying together and being miserable.

If the decision’s to accept your partner, and vice-versa, the relationship can continue and grow in a healthy way. You’ve given one another a chance at finding love.

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How to Choose Your College Major

Bear in mind that whatever subjects you choose in college, you will have to spend a great deal of time learning it. So, it’s advisable to think over it seriously. Typically, the best time to decide on your field of study is right before your 11th grade if you haven’t already.

Here is a guide to choosing your college major:

Choosing a Specific Career Path

If you already know which career you’re looking forward to when you graduate, it becomes easier to choose your specialized area of study. However, before you decide that you want to go down that career path, look into the relevant discipline. Check out the syllabus and subjects you will have to take on. Talk to students in the department of your choice. Are you sure you’re ready for the coursework involved?

Future Earning Potential

Pay scale can be a major factor for students who are planning to take out a loan for their education. Trying to pay it back while barely scraping through, hardly makes sense when you have invested so much in college. Courses like Engineering, Actuarial Mathematics, Computer Science, Physics, Statistics and Economics lead to the highest salaries. That being said, your six-figure salary won’t be worth it if you’re not content with the career path you have chosen for yourself.

Favourite Subjects

If there is a particular subject that you absolutely love, then it’s a great sign that you have found your area of study. Proclivity for a subject can translate into better understanding of the subject matter and better grades. Eventually, you will be able to get into a job that truly holds meaning for your passion.

Explore Your Interests

If you’re not sure about what you want to study, exploring your underlying interests might help you find what you’re looking for. Talk to your teachers and advisors to help you find your best fit. Who knows? You may end up on the right track.

Double Major

If your knowledge for hunger is not appeased by a single area of study, some universities also offer dual degrees. Make sure to research about the university you are applying for and how much of a load it’s going to be on you throughout the semesters.

As for the fear that you may lose interest in a subject halfway through, there is always a possibility of changing your academic field. However, it may take you more than the traditional four years of study to earn your college degree due to the change of coursework and requisite subjects.

How to Choose Flowers for Your Wedding Anniversary

Flowers are a perfect gift for many occasions. If you’re not aware of what flowers symbolize, picking out flowers for the right occasion can be challenging. Flowers can be given at almost any occasion. Some popular occasions to give flowers are birthdays, anniversary, get well, thank you, holidays, date, and wedding.

Red or pink flowers represent love and passion for one another therefore it’s always safe to gift them on anniversaries. Just like there are specific gifts for each anniversary year; similarly there are specific flowers for each year as well. Today I’m going to focus on wedding anniversary flowers in this post. But you will read about other occasion’s flowers in my future posts as well.

Carnations – 1st Anniversary: First wedding anniversary is a time of celebration. Carnations are traditional flowers used for couple’s first wedding anniversary. These flowers represent young passionate love. Carnations come in a variety of colors, so you can choose the best hue that symbolizes your love.

Cosmos- 2nd Anniversary: By second anniversary couples have formed a thorough understanding of each other with more powerful unique love, and that’s exactly what this beautiful flower represents. The astonishing cosmos are perfect flowers for couples celebrating their wonderful two years together.

Sunflower- 3rd Anniversary: Sunflower represents the marriage of three years which is by now strong, passionate and colorful. The strong stalk of the sunflower symbolizes the strong foundation of marriage. Beautiful yellow petals of the sunflower stand for love and passion. Fresh sunflower bouquets look extremely astonishing and are a clear sign of trust that has been developed between the couple after being together for three years.

Geranium- 4th Anniversary: This colorful and vibrant flower for 4th wedding anniversary is called geranium. It symbolizes happiness and positive emotions. Geranium arrangements are perfect for your 4th anniversary when you and your spouse are comfortable with each other’s habits and have a better understanding.

Daisy – 5th Anniversary: The luminous daisies are perfect gift for the 5th wedding anniversary. This simple but beautiful flower represents hope, loyalty and love which the couple has for each other after sharing all sorts of experiences together for 5 years.

Calla Lily- 6th Anniversary: Calla Lily, an elegant flower symbolizes all the wonderful ways the two have grown over the six years of marriage, developed unique love and became even more attractive.

Freesia- 7th Anniversary: The 7th anniversary flower is called freesia. This beautiful flower also has a pleasant fragrance which has long been used in lotions and soaps. The freesia represents all the appreciation and love you hold for your loving partner and the amazing surprises the future holds for you two.

Lilac- 8th Anniversary: These absolutely stunning flowers are perfect for your eighth wedding anniversary. The white lilac represents first love. So this is the perfect time to remind yourself and your spouse of the day you two met and recall all the beautiful moments and passions you’ve shared together for these long eight years of marriage.

Bird of Paradise- 9th Anniversary: As you can tell by the name, this stunning flower is one of a kind and an amazing choice to celebrate the wonderful nine years of marriage. This flower points towards adventures still to come and all the excitement your love holds.

Daffodil – 10th year anniversary: The magnificent ten years of marriage is an important number to celebrate and the brilliant daffodil flowers are perfect for this occasion.

Roses- 15th Anniversary: Roses are known as passion and romance and it fits perfect to be the flower of 15th wedding anniversary when you have gone through a lot together. You and your spouse deserve this luxury flower by this time so giving red roses to your spouse will show how passionate you are about each other still.

Aster- 20th Anniversary: The elegant aster flower is chosen for the 20th wedding anniversary. This star-like flower is known as symbol of love, patience and fortune. The soft beauty of its beaming petals also represents appreciation of the wisdom you’ve gained together in two decades.

Iris- 25th Anniversary: Iris is a royal flower and after 25 years of marriage it is perfect example to show your spouse how even more special they have become to you for spending so many years together. Celebrate your wonderful 25 years with this luxurious bouquet or an arrangement of these royal purple flowers.

Lily-30th Anniversary: By the 30th anniversary you and your spouse have grown and changed a lot but your commitment to each other is still the same. A bouquet of beautiful lily flower is full of surprises. It comes in many colors and shapes. The magnificent lily will make a bold statement that you still have passion for your spouse.

Gladiolas-40th Anniversary: The wonderful forty years of marriage has a charm of its own. This unique relationship has to be celebrated with the most unique and brilliant gladiola flower. These flowers represent the growth of your amazing memories and experiences that have changed your lives in the long forty years together.

Yellow Roses and Violets- 50th Anniversary: Fifty years of marriage is a unique moment of your life. It should be celebrated the best way possible. As you’ve aged you gained lots of memories experiences and have a special bond together that can never be explained. The special flowers to celebrate 50th anniversary are yellow roses and violets. Together these two flowers look astonishing just like your couple. This is the only anniversary that has two different official flowers for celebration. These elegant flower arrangements will make your celebration even more beautiful and full of love and happiness.

Think Newspapers Are Yesterday’s News? Think Again

Stamp Twain had this celebrated reaction when he read about his “demise” in the daily paper:

“The reports of my passing are extraordinarily overstated.”

Presently the tables have turned. The passing of daily papers is being accounted for when a great many individuals worldwide are as yet perusing the every day news. Such incongruity. Saying daily papers are done is a definitive phony news.

A solitary daily paper report is as yet a standout amongst the most great drivers of sentiment. More great than a drifting Twitter posting, a viral Facebook post or a best Instagram hashtag. Simply ask the awful get-away property proprietors in and around Playa Del Carmen, a famous resort town on the upper east bank of the Yucat√°n Peninsula in the Mexican territory of Quintana Roo, generally known at the Mexican Riviera.

In February 2018, only weeks from the pinnacle visitor season, they were getting ready to welcome a large number of vacationers anxious to get away from a long, hard winter. The swarms of sun searchers incorporated my better half and myself. We were reserved to spend seven days in late March at our most loved winter escape: the Iberostar Grand Paraiso, around thirty minutes via auto from Playa Del Carmen.

At that point came the stunning news that a vacationer ship in Playa Del Carmen was “besieged” on Feb 22, 2018. The accompanying story, bolstered by a video ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HgO9VPFBNyU ), was significantly all the more aggravating. Twenty-five individuals harmed! The U.S. International safe haven cautions explorers to avoid the ships and parts of the Caribbean resort city!

After two weeks, another “bomb-like” gadget was found on another ship. It was evacuated without going off. On March 21, the day we cleared out for our vacation, the U.S. International safe haven evacuated its notice.

So what do you think occurred? Did the sun-searchers overlook the news? Did the inns do their standard blasting business? In light of my discoveries, drawn from an as a matter of fact little example estimate, the appropriate response would be a reverberating no.

The terrible news, once discharged, bested everything. It couldn’t be turned around – close to you can return the toothpaste in the tube.

Proof of the drop out made by the news report was anything but difficult to discover, beginning from the minute we entered traditions at the Cancun Airport and easily got through in record time in light of the fact that there were no lines (Exhibit A).

When we landed at our resort, for all intents and purposes nothing was the equivalent of course: there were less visitors on the grounds (Exhibit B), a few of our most loved strength eateries were shut for a large portion of our remain (Exhibit C) and I could get any golf tee time I needed, and really needed to change my unique tee time in light of the fact that there were no different players in that opening (Exhibit D).

Need more? While playing my second round of golf with only one other player (Exhibit E), we embraced a solitary player (Exhibit F) who was one opening behind us. He ended up being a neighborly individual from Mexico City who leases a loft in Playa Del Carmen. “It’s typically completely reserved right now,” he let us know. “This year, nothing.” (Exhibit G)

All due to a solitary news occasion. Keep in mind that whenever someone discloses to you daily papers are yesterday’s news.

Shoulder Holsters – Know Your Rig

Leather shoulder rigs are a true classic. Let us just name, Clint Eastwood in Dirty Harry, Steve McQueen in Bullitt, Bruce Willis in Die Hard With A Vengeance and last but not lest Don Johnson in Miami Vice. If those fellas are not the epitome of stylish then I don’t know what is. You may be asking – but are shoulder holsters for concealed carry really practical or are they just some old-timey nonsense. The answer is obvious, they are perfect for concealed carry, your daily carry, carrying in you car and also on a hike. Shoulder holsters are versatile, comfortable and reliable. This article will help you in the following:

How To Choose A Shoulder Holster

How To Adjust A Shoulder Holster

How To Wear A Shoulder Holster

How To Choose A Shoulder Holster

Choosing a shoulder holster is the first and hardest step. Let’s break it down to easy steps. You may look after it if you:

Want to conceal carry but don’t want to wear a belt holster

Want to conceal a large canon such as a 8″ revolver

Want to look cool as Dirty Harry

Let’s face it. Belt holsters can be a burden. Carrying a holster on your belt all day long just might somehow get on your nerves, pinching, printing sweating etc. Shoulder holster concealed carry can be the solution you are looking for. It’s as easy as putting on a coat. Slide your arms through the harness and you are strapped without any belt obstructions. And don’t forget that you don’t have to put your gun belt through a maze of belt loops. And you know what the best part is? Spare ammo on the other side. Concealment in a shoulder holster is as easy as putting your jacket over it and you are set. If you think your gun is larger then just go for a vertical shoulder holster. The gun will be facing downward and you will still have it within a hands reach.

The vertical shoulder holster is also a solution for people who like their guns large and loud. It denies the statement that you can’t conceal a 8″ Smith & Wesson. Yes you can in a vertical shoulder holster. And again, you have spare speedloaders on your other side. Imagine the time it would take to draw 8″ of steel from your pants and compare it to a shoulder holster where it’s just grab, break and draw. The same goes with 1911 shoulder holsters, a full size fit’s a horizontal shoulder holster well, but may be more practical in a vertical holster.

The large variety and designs of shoulder holsters can practically conceal firearms of any caliber and size. From.357 to.45, you can bet that it would function perfectly in a shoulder holster. And now to the best part of having a shoulder holster – the coolness factor. Well, I admit it’s not the best part, of course the best part is the safe carry aspect etc., etc., but you have to give some credit to the heroes of TV for making the holster look so cool. A statement to the great era of cop movies.

How To Adjust A Shoulder Holster

Now, you just received your custom made shoulder holster for a.357 revolver, it has a double speedloader counterbalance and the mahogany leather looks amazing also because you added a personal monogram to it. You unpack it a suddenly feel like you received something from IKEA. A holster, counterbalance, parts, straps, harness, ugh. Not as easy as a Kydex holster that you just hook on the belt, right? Well, maybe yes but if you want something pretty you have to do something about it.

Adjusting a shoulder holster is very important and, surprisingly, very easy. It can be broken into 3 steps:

Adjust the harness

Position the Holster

Position the counterbalance

We all come in different shapes and sizes and one thing that shoulder holsters can do is that they can be made to serve people even in XXXL sizes. Big guys. Your harness can be adjusted very easily to fit well and safely. You have to be sure that it’s tight but not too tight because your arms and upper body will move and the harness must allow movement. If you are planning to add more layers of clothing, i.e. a shirt and a sweater, just adjust the harness to be bigger or vice versa. Be sure to wear an empty rig and position the harness crossing in the middle of your back.

Make sure the straps aren’t twisted and that they lay flat against your shoulders and upper back. If your holster rig has shoulder pads, make sure they are centered front-to-back, high up on your shoulders near your neck. You may not find the perfect fit the first time you put the holster on, so pay attention to how it feels over time and adjust it. One way to test this is to stand in front of a mirror and perform a series of movements. Watch if the rig moves around a lot or stays tight. Also take notice of whether or not the harness feels comfortable when you move around.

If the harness is tight enough to your satisfaction be sure that the holster is 1 – 2 inches below your armpit. Not too hing as it would obstruct your arm movement and not too low as it would be a burden to draw. You must be able to reach around your body and instinctively find the handle of your firearm. If you prefer a shoulder rig with belt tie downs (those little straps of leather that go from the holster to your belt) just do the same and don’t forget to attach the tie downs to your belt. Their advantage is that they have a snap so you don’t have to bother with unbuckling your belt. Be sure to position the can’t of the holster to your liking and don’t get distracted if the holster moves from front to back, this happens sometimes and is not an issue.

Last but not least, your counterbalance also must be adjusted. If your shoulder rig only comes with a holster part and no pouch then the process is easy, just make sure the elastic part is not too tight and allows you to move and at the same time balances the weight of the firearm. If you have a pouch on your harness then just do the same as with the holster. Position it where you instinctively reach for a spare mag or speedloader. And you are all set.

Our Tip: Leather Shoulder Holster System

If you are looking for a versatile shoulder rig made of sturdy leather that can be adjusted easily and worn with comfort this is the one for you. You’ll get a rig with a holster and a double mag pouch – or a double speedloader pouch in the case of a revolver. It comes fully assembled so you are just a break-in away from carrying it. And if you ever feel like dual carrying you can just order a holster for the left side and mount it on easily. The holster and pouch can be tied to the belt via belt clips and the whole rig can be concealed under a layer of clothing.

How to wear a shoulder holster

If you have your shoulder rig adjusted and ready to go to action you might stumble upon a simple question – how to wear a shoulder holster? The answer will be provided below, just right now imagine you are a detective and the crooks see you taking off your jacket as you interrogate them and your 5″ chrome 1911 says “Hi!” to them. Cool, huh?

Now to the more important part. It comes to 4 easy steps:

Be sure to have a loose jacket

Be sure to keep the jacket open

Don’t forget your concealed carry permit

Practice, practice, practice.

The loose jacket doesn’t have to be 3 sizes larger than you are but a little looseness is always fine as this helps avoiding the print of the harness on your back plus the tighter the garment the more hugged the holster. But a comfort-liking man wears a comfortable jacket or shirt so there is no place to worry. Even if you suit up you can use a shoulder holster to carry your self-defense piece and people won’t notice that you are armed.

The important part of wearing a shoulder holster is draw practice, keep in mind that you’ll have to have the jacket open in order to gain fast access to the firearm. Practice this often and mind that some movement may show your gun, so don’t spin around with open arms like they do in movies. Just keep it cool and protected.

If you cover your rig with your jacket always keep in mind that it’s concealed carry so you better have that permit with you. Avoid any unnecessary conflict and just be armed, prepared and safe.

Shoulder Holster Draw

Practicing a shoulder holster draw is the key. It’s easy and can be done in 3 easy steps. The key is repetition until it becomes an instinct and intuition.

The first step is to clear your garment. This means swiping it with your non dominant hand and reaching for the handle with your dominant hand at the same time. If you don’t have a jacket or any shirt over it it’s wise to put your non dominant hand up, bend it in the elbow and just move it upwards, this will grant you easier access to your firearm and will keep your non shooting hand safe.

The second step is to reach for the firearm and get a good grip. The thumb-break can be easily broken with your thumb in the case of horizontal shoulder holster and/or with your index finger if you carry vertically.